Is anyone in a couple relationship where each of you totally runs your own money? Is anyone in a relationship where one partner makes large personal purchases ($150 or more) without consulting with the other? I'm just wondering if I'm being unreasonable because we live in my dad's house, someday it will be mine. Instead of rent I put a lot into home repairs. My partner doesn't put anything toward the house, but he can purchase lots of large stuff for himself - in the past three weeks he's purchased expensive software and a hand-held scanner - each well over $150 - and each without telling me about it. Should I be suspicious of his secrecy? Am I being unreasonable when irritated about it?
It wouldn't bother me if it was needed clothing, but his purchase of "toys" when we have so many more needs is frustrating. His mother and daughter will be visiting this summer and we need to remodel a room for one of them - is it wrong to expect him to contribute toward this expense when I wouldn't be having the expense if it weren't for him?
Oh, he plans on a large purchase of a bass and amplifier - $900!
I guess I'm out of luck.
Am I being unreasonable? Are there committed relationships where this type of behavior is accepted?